Stay out of the loop would be my recommendation. I just followed a link from someone to an entry about 'how to get writing gay men right,' written by a gay man, and he started off with 'of course you can't understand the gay male experience, the homophobia, the fear,' and that was as far as I got because I thought 'well, actually, I really don't think the gay male experience on those things is that different from the gay female experience, so you'll excuse me while I back button away from yet another person who hasn't noticed I exist. While I'm standing right next to him.'

I'd actually calmed down about it before then!

What I do know, is that an author I know was recently attacked (I don't know the how's, but it was enough that she has completely withdrawn from any fandoms) for writing slash. She was a wonderful author, brilliant even.

That's awful! What's wrong with people that they have to go around attacking others who aren't even doing anything wrong? Seriously, what happened to minding your own business?