you think the physical fear is the *exact* same? that's a big statement, idk if I can agree with that.
I didn't say it's exactly the same, which it obviously isn't - for one thing, no one person's fear is the same as any one other person's fear. But yes, I do think that the physical fear is pretty similar. I'd be interested to know why you disagree, and I don't mean that in a snarky way, in case it sounds that way.
A discussion about gay and bi women in slash fandom would be nice, but this wasn't that.
Yes it would be nice, and I'm not surprised that this wasn't that, since it never is. But regardless, it's quite possible to have a discussion about one part of something while also acknowledging that you're not in fact talking about everyone when you talk about that one group. My problem isn't that the conversation is about straight women writing slash, my problem is that the conversation speaks as though they're the *only* people writing slash, which makes the rest of us invisible. Again.
And if what's upsetting them doesn't apply to *you*, then it doesn't apply to you. So don't worry about it.
The thing is, although they're not talking about me specifically, which is part of my problem with it, they are talking about a space I belong in, and they're talking about it as if I and all the queer women and men who also belong there don't exist. And that does apply to me, and it does bother me, so. Which is also why I'm ranting about it here, not in their journals - I'm sure they're having a perfectly legitimate conversation which I don't want to derail by pointing out what they're not talking about, but that doesn't stop me getting annoyed and upset that once again we're being told what to do by people who don't acknowledge that I actually exist.
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I didn't say it's exactly the same, which it obviously isn't - for one thing, no one person's fear is the same as any one other person's fear. But yes, I do think that the physical fear is pretty similar. I'd be interested to know why you disagree, and I don't mean that in a snarky way, in case it sounds that way.
A discussion about gay and bi women in slash fandom would be nice, but this wasn't that.
Yes it would be nice, and I'm not surprised that this wasn't that, since it never is. But regardless, it's quite possible to have a discussion about one part of something while also acknowledging that you're not in fact talking about everyone when you talk about that one group. My problem isn't that the conversation is about straight women writing slash, my problem is that the conversation speaks as though they're the *only* people writing slash, which makes the rest of us invisible. Again.
And if what's upsetting them doesn't apply to *you*, then it doesn't apply to you. So don't worry about it.
The thing is, although they're not talking about me specifically, which is part of my problem with it, they are talking about a space I belong in, and they're talking about it as if I and all the queer women and men who also belong there don't exist. And that does apply to me, and it does bother me, so. Which is also why I'm ranting about it here, not in their journals - I'm sure they're having a perfectly legitimate conversation which I don't want to derail by pointing out what they're not talking about, but that doesn't stop me getting annoyed and upset that once again we're being told what to do by people who don't acknowledge that I actually exist.