I should have clarified; I think that a gay man is more likely to be beaten, while a lesbian is more likely to be raped. Both are violent, one is more sexual than the other.

That isn't my main point, however, I am not trying to downplay violence against either. You take two individuals of the same gender and orientation, even, and one will have a different experience than the other, different fears. I just think that it's within that person's rights to say that they feel that their experience is different than that of gay women. It's possible to acknowledge differences in experience without downplaying one or the other.