actually, I don't care what you think about me and people like me and what we do for fun. We're not hurting you (which, yes, I do feel I can say, since I'm a gay woman and people write f/f fic) so just leave us alone to get on with it in peace, please.

My position exactly. I'm finally seeing at least some sensible posts on this topic, because I was starting to feel like a dirty pervert and aggressor with guys pointing their fingers accusingly and all.