Really, sometimes he's not very nice - he can be oblivious and forgetful, and he can have a one-track mind.
Exactly. They're not really suited to each other, in my opinion, but it's as much him as it is her, and her pointing out ways in which he could be different is not a sign that she's a terrible person, nor is it a sign that Rodney's helpless before her machinations. If he doesn't want to, he doesn't have to, and also, he could leave her. They're dating, not married with three kids, and even if the latter were true, if he hated it that much, he could still leave! She doesn't have magical mind-controlling powers over him!
I've just about hit my limit with stories where he 'realises' he never cared about her at all, on any level.
Definitely. And John always ends up admitting his feelings after the break-up and having Rodney fall into bed with him, declaring that if he'd only known, he never would have been with Keller, and there's never a moment when either one of them is bothered by this. If I was John, I think I'd be pretty bothered by the idea that I spent months wanting someone while he messed around with someone he didn't even care about, and usually only ended it because she did. It doesn't exactly seem like the most solid foundation for a relationship!
sometimes I *want* it to be hard, especially because choosing to be with John is arguably the more difficult option
Particularly since Rodney seems to want what a straight relationship would give him - someone to go to things with him, as his partner openly, someone he can get married to - and those things are never going to happen with John. It seems like it should be a bigger mental shift than, oh, ok, you do like me, let's have sex.
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Exactly. They're not really suited to each other, in my opinion, but it's as much him as it is her, and her pointing out ways in which he could be different is not a sign that she's a terrible person, nor is it a sign that Rodney's helpless before her machinations. If he doesn't want to, he doesn't have to, and also, he could leave her. They're dating, not married with three kids, and even if the latter were true, if he hated it that much, he could still leave! She doesn't have magical mind-controlling powers over him!
I've just about hit my limit with stories where he 'realises' he never cared about her at all, on any level.
Definitely. And John always ends up admitting his feelings after the break-up and having Rodney fall into bed with him, declaring that if he'd only known, he never would have been with Keller, and there's never a moment when either one of them is bothered by this. If I was John, I think I'd be pretty bothered by the idea that I spent months wanting someone while he messed around with someone he didn't even care about, and usually only ended it because she did. It doesn't exactly seem like the most solid foundation for a relationship!
sometimes I *want* it to be hard, especially because choosing to be with John is arguably the more difficult option
Particularly since Rodney seems to want what a straight relationship would give him - someone to go to things with him, as his partner openly, someone he can get married to - and those things are never going to happen with John. It seems like it should be a bigger mental shift than, oh, ok, you do like me, let's have sex.