Update

[bluflamingo]

Now watch me forget half of what I wanted to say, so, in no particular order:

1. I just wrote two thirds of my assignment today, after putting it off all of yesterday (okay, so I lifted 600 words directly from my research proposal, but it's not like they're irrelevant words!)

2. My cat does not like this whole 'work' thing; she keeps coming and staring at me and meowing until I play with her

3. I want to ask out this girl? To see The Last Waltz, by The Band, possibly my favourite film ever, but one no-one else has ever heard of? Tell me encouraging things, or funny stories about dating please? I've never asked anyone out before!

4. Thinking about signing up to a match making service (in person, not online) as I promised my friend I'd go on one date a month - she's decided it's time I dated, even if I don't meet the love of my life. Has anyone ever tried one of those? How did it go? I've done online dating before, with mixed success, but I thought I might try something new.

5. Survived christmas without murder and with my sanity intact - apparently that whole ignore and change the subject approach really does work, who knew?

Coming up next: half of the Christmas ficlets (I said they'd be new years, right?) Other half to come.

Oh, and before I forget: thank you, somehowunbroken for the card, it was waiting for me when I got home!

Comments

[havocthecat]

Asking people out can be nerve-wracking, but so rewarding! I asked at least four people out, and it worked out three out of four times. Good luck!

[skieswideopen]

Congrats on surviving Christmas! And on having a productive day!

I have no useful advice to offer on asking people out, but good luck! (My sister seems to have decided I need to start dating too. I'm not quite sure how she plans to see that it happens...)

[princessofgeeks]

ignore and change the subject -- thanks for the excellent reminder. i can use this in my future life.

[bironic]

Good luck with #3! (And the rest.) I don't have any advice, as I'm still working up the courage to properly ask out a particular person when the time is right, and it will be my first time doing so, but I am thinking good thoughts for you and watching this space with interest.

[bluflamingo]

That's a pretty high success rate :)

[bluflamingo]

My sister's convinced every woman I mention is secretly my girlfriend, so I've stopped discussing my romantic life with her. Honestly, I suspect my friend might start setting me up - should I be hoping that your sister does or doesn't follow that lead?!

[bluflamingo]

Welcome - this is the first time I've actually felt able to try it without getting angry, but apparently there really is something to it

[skieswideopen]

Well, I suppose after two years of sitting at home, I really ought to think about dating. So if my sister could find someone to set me up with, I might give it a go. I think it's more likely that she'll push me toward internet dating, though.

How about you? Does your friend have good taste? Do you trust her to set you up?

[bluflamingo]

Thanks! I texted her yesterday and asked if she wanted to come with, and she said yes, she's just got to double check she's not busy. So, mostly success, though I don't know if it actually came out as 'I'd like to date you' or 'I want to be friends.' Good luck with your asking - according to my 'you should date more' friend, the trick is to ask early in the friendship/acquaintanceship/whatever, before it gets all nerve-wracking.

[spillingvelvet]

I looooooove dates. I date lots, because my approach to love is basically how I write Cam's: Do it as often as you can because people are great and I want to love them all.

But a more reserved approach in your starting situation sounds better. I see that you asked her, and sometimes the best thing to do in order to not be barking up the wrong tree [oh, how much heartbreak i have had there] is to come right out and say "I really like you. Like that." and let what happens happen. Even if it's not the outcome you were hoping for, you will live through it and learn something, and try again SOON.

Remember that you are a whip-smart, fantastically neat person and you deserve to have wonderful dates with other equally-awesome people.

GOOD LUCK! Oh, and take her a little flower, like a single daisy. [That's a surefire way to get make-outs from me.]

[bluflamingo]

Thank you for the encouragement! sadly she's getting back with her ex, so no makeouts, but I have a new friend, which is always cool! and ended up seeing the film again with a girl I work with and get on iwht but have never hung out with, and we had a great time, so now I have two new friends :)