bluflamingo: Joey Lucas from TWW waving her hand (TWW: Joey (wild hands))
Saturday, August 2nd, 2014 09:09 pm
A friend of mine (who I haven't seen in the better part of a year, since she got a girlfriend) got in touch with me this week, hey, how are you, let's catch up, to which I said yes, definitely, coffee this weekend, and so we set it up for this afternoon.

She rocked up with her girlfriend, which she hadn't mentioned doing at all, and didn't say anything about (other than introductions). Definitely wasn't an unexpected thing that she was around and hence invited along. Having never met her girlfriend, and not even knowing in advance that they were still together (and because I was expecting to have coffee with my friend, not meet a new person), I was slightly thrown.

I guess some people just assume that you means you-and-your-partner but she's the only friend I have who's ever made that assumption, and I'm not up for having friend time co-opted into friend and partner time, as nice as her partner seems to be. I get that sometimes she'll bring partner, of course, but I don't see that it's just a standard thing that doesn't rate any kind of conversation. Plus, my friend brought up a couple of things that are too personal for me to talk about in front of her partner who I don't know, and it felt like I was expected to entrust her with this stuff as much as I do my friend, despite her being a stranger to me (maybe because my friend trusts her and considers it transitive? Or just didn't think?)

Question is: how do I say this to my friend in a way that won't sound like I don't like her partner? Especially since her partner lives in another town, so I guess they spend their entire weekend together, and I kind of feel like a mean bitch for saying, actually, can it just be you and me (other than the obvious solution of only asking to do things on week nights, when I assume that they're not together).
bluflamingo: Natasha from Avengers Assemble raising her eyebrow (Natasha eye-brow)
Sunday, July 6th, 2014 11:26 am
Life has been a little crazy since... oh, February, maybe... but I miss you all, so I'm going to try to actually post something occasionally. In the meantime, have a list:

1. I passed my PhD upgrade panel! (In case I never said, I'm a part-time PhD student alongside working full-time, looking into service provision for female victims of domestic violence from a same sex partner). It basically means I can now seek ethics board approval and do the research part - eep!

2. My landlord decided in May to evict me (apparently, I'm supposed to just live with water coming through the ceiling and not complain about it?) so I ended up moving in something of a rush to a fairly tiny flat that I nevertheless love - I keep telling people it's the best decision I was ever forced to make when I didn't want to

3. I've been making some clothes, since I like to sew, and I hate to clothes shop. So far: one dress with shirring top (out of purple fabric with squirrels on it); one blue and purple patchwork skirt (oh my god, that took FOREVER); one very bright wrap around skirt; a tea dress with tea pots fabric (about three quarters done, but needs another panel to make it long enough); and a panel skirt that I figured out myself, and which is hence driving me slightly crazy. Next up is a shawl to wear to my best friend's wedding (over the dress a friend is making me), a bag for the same, a circle skirt out of green floral fabric, and a halter top dress that's suitable for work. Plus, if the latter works out, another version in purple camouflage fabric. Oh, and a baby quilt for a quilt show.

4. Job interview tomorrow, eep. and extra eep because I bought a new dress to wear, but it's white with black flowers and I just got my period - slightly risky?

5. My marvel big bang fic is almost finished, but I think I want to write a companion piece to go with, because then I can write Natasha and Sam and Steve and Maria Hill being smart and awesome and coming to the rescue. Fifty days is plenty of time though, right?

6. I still haven't finished my beginners archery course, mainly because it's on Sunday mornings and I'm not very good at mornings even on weekdays. Does anyone have any good suggestions for making myself get up and go?
bluflamingo: yellow and white flowers on sand (Flowers on beach)
Saturday, July 13th, 2013 10:17 pm
Turns out my gardening gloves aren't nettle proof after all - ow! Still, I have a nice collection of thorn scratches on the same arm, so at least I match.

My flat - can't call it a new flat, since I've been in it 51 weeks yesterday - has a small garden. It's mostly brick, with a little bit of soil, and I've filled about a third of the brick part with plant pots so far, including an old coffee table and a saucepan stand that have been repurposed as pot stands (I live in a cul-de-sac, people dump stuff). Today I finally got around to sorting out the soil border, including ripping up thorns and branches and nettles (did I say ow? cos, ow) and hacking back two bushes. Turns out I have a hazel tree in there! That gets to stay, then I'm putting in herbs.

Also thinking about having a corner for a rabbit run. There's lots of rabbit rescues around here, so I kind of like the idea. On the other hand, I also want more plants, a space for a table and chairs, a small storage shed... so the rabbits may be a no go!
bluflamingo: Joey Lucas from TWW waving her hand (TWW: Joey (wild hands))
Thursday, May 17th, 2012 10:17 pm
I just got called a hysterical female by an assistant at Timpsons (for non-UK folks, they cut keys).

Way to make sure I never buy anything there ever again!

Particularly since all I was doing was calling to complain that only 3 out of the 10 keys I just had cut actually worked. No apology, when I pressed it, sarcastically asked if I wanted him to get down on his hands and knees, and then told I sounded like a hysterical female.

So, not only can they not cut keys that work (or am I supposed to use them to decorate my office?) but they're also rude and sexist. Anyone know a good key cutting service? I seem to be in need of one!
bluflamingo: yellow and white flowers on sand (Flowers on beach)
Friday, April 27th, 2012 06:01 pm
Ah, the joys of medication withdrawal. How much I didn't miss randomly crying in coffee shops for no reason.

I'm sticking it out for a week (maybe two, we'll see how it is when I get to the end of the first week) before I start thinking about abandoning this whole coming off anti-depressants thing. So far, it's more of a 'if tomorrow isn't better, I'm going back on them,' thing though, with a bit of, to hell with this that usually is gone by the morning.

In the mean-time, I've started:
1. A follow-up fic to Gone, in which they rescue Kaylee
2. A follow-up fic to Baby Steps, in which I'm not at all sure what will happen
3. A fic about a waitress who meets a hot military girl at an event and has sex with her
4. A fic about a girl who keeps running into the same woman at weddings.

I have not, as it happens, finished any of them. None of them are what I want to be writing right now.

Want to leave me angsty prompts? I can't promise to write all of them (or possibly any of them, given that my concentration span currently feels like it's about 10 minutes!) but I'll take anything: character death, torture, kidnap, divorce, relationships ending, you name it, if it's angsty, I'll take it.
bluflamingo: half orange with segments in rainbow colours (ford)
Monday, January 2nd, 2012 06:19 pm
I got three lovely stories written for me in holiday exchanges this year:
The Witching Hour (1212 words) by faviconhavocthecat
Fandom: Stargate Atlantis
Rating: General Audiences
Warning: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Laura Cadman/Teyla Emmagan, Kate Heightmeyer/Elizabeth Weir, Ronon Dex/Evan Lorne
Characters: Laura Cadman, Teyla Emmagan

It's midnight on Atlantis and everything's all right.

Moving Day (2045 words) by favicontielana
Fandom: Hawaii Five-0 (2010)
Rating: General Audiences
Warning: No Archive Warnings Apply
Characters: Kono Kalakaua, Jenna Kaye, Danny "Danno" Williams, Chin Ho Kelly

Kono and the guys help Jenna move into her new apartment. Except that the guys have been delayed and it's just Jenna and Kono.

Restoration (4228 words) by faviconperspi
Fandom: Hawaii Five-0 (2010)
Rating: Teen And Up Audiences
Warning: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Chin Ho Kelly/Steve McGarrett
Characters: Steve McGarrett, Chin Ho Kelly, Mary Ann McGarrett

Sometimes restoration comes when you least expect it.

Which means I should really link to the stuff I wrote, but that's going to have to wait for another day - I can't wrap my head around coding all the links today.

To my amazement, I don't have anything I should be writing because there's a deadline coming up (which probably means it's time I got my act together for another round of Cam Trope Fic). Instead, here's a list of things I'm hoping to get written in 2012:

1. The thing I started as a pitch hit for 2010's secret santa, in which John doesn't go back to Atlantis after the Return, and ends up with Cam Mitchell, with a sub-plot about how he was involved with Rodney and it fell apart because Rodney was scared and couldn't get over his insecurities about John having to keep them secret
2. Dysfunction verse future fic, in which John and Cam get their happy ending (and a dog)

Hawaii 5-0:
3. The one where Danny totally knows Steve likes him, doesn't like Steve back and knows Steve knows this, and is trying to avoid talking about it
4. The thing I started which is a post-2.10 AU in which Jenna lives and about her and Lori trying to learn to relate to each other (because to Lori, Jenna's the girl who nearly got her friend killed, and to Jenna, Lori's the girl who stole her spot on the team even if she didn't).
5. Something about Steve and Chin before Steve joined the Navy, and then the awkward conversation about what happens now they're working together years later
6. Sequel to Building Family

Other fandoms:
7. The White Collar AU where Alex is Diana's CI, and Alex and June's daughter get up to criminal high-jinks together while looking hot
8. Firefly: sequel to Gone where Bridget finds Kaylee
9. Possibly something about Ariadne and Philippa in Inception - mainly because that film has far too many men in it, and I want to write about the women
10. Something Colby/David, from Numb3rs, having just watched season 5. Possibly a post-season 6 AU in which David stays and takes over leading the team, and Amita and Colby bond through online role playing games in which she mocks him for being terrible

Plus, I've been saying everywhere that this is going to be the year in which I write my space moles novel, and get upgraded from MPhil to Phd with my studies; start a queer writers group, get paid to run a writing course, volunteer more. Be more involved in activism - I want to start a Lesbian Feminist Collective, because I feel too gay in feminist spaces and too feminist in LGBT spaces, but I don't know how or what we'd do. Of course, the trick might just be to gather people together and see what happens.

So, that should keep me busy :)
bluflamingo: two white girls, one dark hair, one blonde, sitting up on bed. blonde has her hand on brunette's face (two girls kissing)
Friday, December 30th, 2011 09:27 pm
Now watch me forget half of what I wanted to say, so, in no particular order:

1. I just wrote two thirds of my assignment today, after putting it off all of yesterday (okay, so I lifted 600 words directly from my research proposal, but it's not like they're irrelevant words!)

2. My cat does not like this whole 'work' thing; she keeps coming and staring at me and meowing until I play with her

3. I want to ask out this girl? To see The Last Waltz, by The Band, possibly my favourite film ever, but one no-one else has ever heard of? Tell me encouraging things, or funny stories about dating please? I've never asked anyone out before!

4. Thinking about signing up to a match making service (in person, not online) as I promised my friend I'd go on one date a month - she's decided it's time I dated, even if I don't meet the love of my life. Has anyone ever tried one of those? How did it go? I've done online dating before, with mixed success, but I thought I might try something new.

5. Survived christmas without murder and with my sanity intact - apparently that whole ignore and change the subject approach really does work, who knew?

Coming up next: half of the Christmas ficlets (I said they'd be new years, right?) Other half to come.

Oh, and before I forget: thank you, [personal profile] somehowunbroken for the card, it was waiting for me when I got home!
bluflamingo: half orange with segments in rainbow colours (Default)
Sunday, December 18th, 2011 10:14 pm
1. I've finished my [ profile] sg_flyboys fic. Usually I wouldn't even have started it yet. What's going on?!

2. The biro I had in my trouser pocket at work this evening has leaked and I've now got a lovely purple splotch on my thigh - looks like a horrible bruise, weird.

3. [personal profile] skieswideopen, thank you for my card! So lovely, and the first one I received.

Mrr, I was sure I had more things to say when I was mentally writing this post while I was driving home from work. No idea what they were now, of course.

Actually, here are two Hawaii Five-0 fics I posted elsewhere:
Shore Leave: Small world, similar types of partners, it was bound to happen eventually (Steve/Catherin, Kono/Catherine, Steve+Danny friendship)

Leave No Man Behind: A test, an escape, a rescue. Family (goes au towards the end of episode 2.10) (Steve, Jenna gen)
bluflamingo: half orange with segments in rainbow colours (Colby/David: walking)
Thursday, September 8th, 2011 10:16 pm
So far, August and September have been... hectic.

Of the good:
1. I have a cat! She's all white, about three, fairly deaf, called Rosie, and a total little love bug. Even my mum, who is notoriously iffy about pets, loves her :)
2. My car was written off for about what I paid for it (actually, this is mixed, since I was hoping it wouldn't be written off at all!)
3. I just posted my SGA Big Bang fic to the archive.
4. Off to Berlin for three days at the end of the month

Of the less good:
1. My anti-depressants have started giving me nightmares. It's been going on for long enough that I get to talk to my doctor about changing my medication
2. My car was written off, and the car I was going to buy turned out to be a total lemon - speedometer was 10 mph out and the engine made knocking noises, just for starters - so I'm back on the bus until I buy a new car
3. Work at all three jobs is ridiculously busy

That said, apparently I have more good than bad, so life could clearly be worse.

To the H5-0 people on my flist/dwircle: if you'd written a pre-relationship Danny/Rachel/(Steve) post-season 1 finale fic, what comms would you post it to? I started looking, got confused, and ran away. Help?
bluflamingo: half orange with segments in rainbow colours (Default)
Tuesday, July 19th, 2011 08:44 pm
I just got accepted for my PhD! I was hoping to get funding to study full-time which I didn't, so I'll be doing it part-time alongside my three jobs (yeah, I know) but I don't care because I GOT ACCEPTED!

I've also got permission from my landlord to get a cat, and am hoping to adopt to 2-year-old brothers - ginger, like me (and Cadman) and raised as indoor cats, which they have to be. Things keep coming up so I've been waiting to get them for a few weeks, but still, hopefully they'll soon be living with me.

I'm 4000 words from hitting the word count for my Atlantis big bang, and I need a break from thinking about it, so, a meme (stolen from [ profile] penknife:

Give me a pairing and I will tell you:
1. What they most commonly do during sex
2. Who has prettier hair
3. What they argue about most often
4. Who'd cope best if the other one died
5. The happiest plausible happily-ever-after I can think of for them.
bluflamingo: half orange with segments in rainbow colours (Colby/David: walking)
Sunday, April 24th, 2011 06:22 pm
For someone who's on holiday and has another 8 days of it yet, I'm feeling very accomplished:
*Done laundry
*Finished the mobile for my friend's baby (who *still* isn't here, come on Baby, stop tormenting your poor mother who is melting from the heat and being very, very pregnant)
*Hung up all my pictures, hanging things, witches, bells etc- *now* this looks like my flat
*Written a short Kono/Jenna fic for [personal profile] such_heights' Female Character Trope Fest (it's not even open for posting until tomorrow!)
*Got within sight of the end of my [community profile] help_japan fic for [personal profile] tielan

As well as going to the circus and the zoo, from which I have about a zillion pictures of African penguins. They're so cute!

Tomorrow, I'm off to the Botanical Gardens, unless it rains, and decorating a glass bowl for my mum for her birthday. Tonight, I was going to go for a walk on the river, but my period decided *now* is a good time to start, so I'm curling up on the sofa and trying to finish my help Japan fic (since it's due in something like six days).
bluflamingo: half orange with segments in rainbow colours (Colby/David)
Thursday, April 21st, 2011 07:39 pm
I've now got eleven whole days off, in a row. I think this may be the longest I've had as holiday since I was living with my parents. That's over a decade!

Anyway, I was going to go away, but then I got the flu about the time I would have started sorting it out, and I'd have had to pack, and all my things are here and... yeah, that's not happening. So I'm staying at home, and being a tourist in my own city. I've got a cheap ticket to the circus (yes, the circus really is in town), I won two tickets to see the Philharmonia Orchestra, I have a voucher for half price demo of blue glass making and to have a go at blowing my own glass thing.

I'm going to the zoo to see the flamingoes, the South African penguins, and the pygmy hippos; I'm going to the Botanical Gardens; I'm driving a couple of hours to Watchet to make sure the sea's still there; I'm going to sit by the river and look for cormorants.

I've also got to finish a mobile I'm making for a family friend whose wife is having a baby any day now, and decorate a glass bowl for my mum for her birthday. Possibly start making a felt rock monster family for a friend's birthday. finish three fics I'm partway through, and start my [ profile] queerfest fics.

All in all, probably for the best that I'm not going away!
bluflamingo: half orange with segments in rainbow colours (Teyla: sticks)
Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011 10:05 pm
I just submitted my PhD application, and it seems likely that tomorrow I'll hear about the fate of one of my jobs. I also have two job applications in where the closing date just passed so I'm waiting to hear if I have interviews ofr either of them.

Excuse me while I just go explode in a ball of nervous tension.

Which, as it happens, is not really the right mood for trying to write my angsty, sad SGA reverse bang fic. It's the perfect mood for writing the "reserves doesn't mean out" H5-0 fic I have in my head, but that's not what I'm meant to be writing.

Also: while leaving prompts for [ profile] queer_fest, I just realised I've never written a female characetr centric fic for that challenge (closest I got was one section of a three section fic, which doesn't count). Gonna change that this year, and also for my [ profile] sgagenficathon fic (though I'm not sure what I'm going to do with that one. Maybe Cadman/Lorne friendship, maybe something with Vega and Keller.)

None of which is relevant to what I should be doing, which is John-centric angsty fic.
bluflamingo: Joey Lucas from TWW waving her hand (TWW: Joey (wild hands))
Tuesday, February 15th, 2011 10:16 pm
Hi world! hi!

Not that anyone probably noticed I was gone (because I know it takes me weeks, sometimes months to start going, hey, X has been quiet lately...) but I noticed you all were gone :(

The reason being, I moved house on the 4th and only got internet reconnected today. Worth it, though, because my new flat is gorgeous, and doesn't have rats, and is bigger than my old one, and in a better neighbourhood and I love it to a completely ridiculous degree. So - yay!

Other news...I also got a new car, after my old one died on me, and it's tiny and pretty and red. I have my last appointment with my counsellor next week and, unlike last time we were possibly finishing (where I go books counselling in 6 week blocks) and I had a complete freakout over it, I actually feel ready to stop now, which is good.

Um, I'm off to a wedding fayre this week, with my sister, my mother, my sister's future mother-in-law and my sister's future sister-in-law, the latter two I have never met. And I'm so not a wedding fayre kind of person, I don't care about this stuff. But it's part of me and my sister trying to get along better, so I'll fake it :)

Also, under a cut because this is where I rant, not about any of the above stuff )

Also, also: passed by a guy loading beer things (barrels? are they barrels if they're made of metal) into a van.
Him: Some weather (sarcastically, as it was pouring)
Me (also sarcastic: Yeah, lovely
Him (apparently sincere): So are you
Me: *keep walking and pretend he didn't say anything*

Cos God knows I look my best when I'm in slob around the house clothes and my hair's wet cos it's raining! Why do people do that?

There was something else I was going to say as well, but do I know what it was? I do not. (tangentially related to that, in uni, my friend and I watched The Mummy until we could practically recite it, and we'd often end a tale of our day with "And did I panic? I did not," John Hannah's line.)
bluflamingo: half orange with segments in rainbow colours (TWW: CJ (reunion speech))
Tuesday, January 25th, 2011 08:32 pm
Okay, I thought the point of getting new glasses was that, you know, I'd be able to see better. Instead, I retyped gold four times today before I realised that I wasn't typing gokl, I just couldn't distinguish the damn letters!

Aparently, this is because my prescription is much stronger in these glasses than it was in my old ones (my eyesight is still deteriorating at a ridiculous rate, to the tune of new glasses every year, my right eye twice as bad as my left, and now being in the highest band for government existence with glasses that exists. good times!)

Bad news is: they say give it *two weeks* for my eyes to adjust, and if they're no better, go back and they'll think of something else. I CAN'T SEE! Two weeks of th8is is, you know, a problem!

On the bright side, my father found me a new car, since he doesn't trust me to find one myself (possibly justified, since the last one I found lasted nine months) and I pick it up this weekend, yay. I'd completely forgotten how much of a total pain getting the bus everywhere is.

I think it's time to move on to February. January, while it's had its good moments, has definitely not been a fantastic start to the year. But look on the bright side, there's eleven months to go, surely the year can only get better, right?
bluflamingo: half orange with segments in rainbow colours (Colby: FBI logo)
Sunday, January 16th, 2011 09:20 pm
So, weekend's nearly over, and I'm actually kind of glad, because let me tell you, it has been frenetic in the style of a busier working day.

Starting with my car refusing to start at 10pm Friday night (but a nice man from the AA came and rescued me *and* followed me 30 minutes to my garage *and* drove me home). Then the rental car I had Saturday wouldn't start either, so I had to get a new one (they're street rentals, not from a company, so I'd already walked to one, and had to walk on to another. Uphill. In the rain.)

Then, during my volunteering shift at a theatre box office, the ticket printer broke down. Starting to wonder if me and machines are cursed right now. Also, not a good thing when you have 300 people to get into a panto. Including a screeching parent who swore she'd bought two tickets we could find no record of, and a bunch of people who thought 20 minutes before a show goes up was a good time to come in and buy tickets.

Still, on we go. Also, now I have a cold.

On the bright side: I (subject to references and credit checks) also have a new flat! It's lovely, in a nice area, the guy living downstairs seems nice and like he'd totally come and help if there was a spider in the bath (shudder) and I can't wait to be living there. Which is good, since I said I'd move in two and a half weeks. What was I thinking?!

On which note: why does the removal company I just looked up, in their list of 'things you want to move' include a piano, but not a bed? Do I want to know what that says about them (answer: almost certainly no).
bluflamingo: half orange with segments in rainbow colours (Default)
Sunday, January 9th, 2011 10:46 pm
So, as you probably don't remember, I had rat problems in my flat over the summer, which were eventually dealt with. Unfortunately, it then turned cold, and a new rat moved in.

And, a few days ago, blew out the electricity in my flat when he touched two live wires and electrocuted himself. I'll spare you the rest of the gory details - suffice it to say I had a complete freak out and rang a friend to rescue me, which she and her partner duly did (and they brought me eggs from their chickens as well!)

All of which is a long preamble to: I'd been thinking about moving anyway, as I've been here two years, it's starting to get a bit small, I'm starting to want to move on etc, but the rat thing pushed me over the edge, and so I'm actively flat hunting. Which seems to have triggered my pre-move clear-out instinct. So far, I've got a bag of soft toys for the cancer research charity shop, and two plastic crates of books for the Amnesty bookshop. Who knew I had so many books I didn't want to read?!

Next up: the two junk drawers, followed by under the bed (which I'm putting off, because I'm scared of finding either spiders or dead rats. I really hope not both *shudder*). Then the under stairs cupboard - God knows what lurks under there - and then the linen closet. Since I did clothes and jewellery over the summer, I think that might be it.

Probably just in time to move!
bluflamingo: half orange with segments in rainbow colours (Default)
Tuesday, December 28th, 2010 06:44 pm
The joys of watching the news with the subtitles on.

The presenter said "People looking to quit (smoking) will be able to get a Quit Kit from their chemist."

The subtitles said "People looking to quit will be able to get a kick from their chemist."

Somehow, I think that might be less tempting!
bluflamingo: half orange with segments in rainbow colours (Default)
Friday, December 17th, 2010 09:36 pm
Ugh, can we just skip the final two weeks of this year and move straight on to 2011 already? My cold has turned into some kind of flu thing, and I feel crap and the insides of my ears itch, the rat appears to have moved back into my flat and is now chewing all the Christmas chocolate I bought for presents, my fridge is going nuts and keeps freezing my cans of soft drink which then explode, my grandmother is coming to stay with my parents (and me) for Christmas and... Yeah, I'm ready for next year already.

Although next year includes PhD application, potentially losing my job when all the cuts happen, study leave for half a day a week with just as much work to do in the remaining time, potentially coming off my anti-depressants and stopping seeing my counsellor... But on the bright side, my sister is getting married, and I've got a week off in February which I plan to spend by the sea, even if it has to be in the UK and it'll be cold. Plus, I think I'm going to move into a nicer place (to which the rat will not be coming) and hopefully get a cat. So it could be worse. And who knows, they might not cut the funding and I might keep my job, and they might not cut education funding so I might even get my PhD place.
bluflamingo: two white girls, one dark hair, one blonde, sitting up on bed. blonde has her hand on brunette's face (two girls kissing)
Monday, August 23rd, 2010 11:07 am
Some days I hate my co-workers. One of whom just announced that she didn't think my city's Pride festival yesterday was 'gay enough.'

Unless you're gay, which I know she's not you don't get to say if it's gay enough or not! It's nice that some not gay-specific vendors came along. And, also, pride's as much about having a safe space to be openly gay as it is about being all-gay all-th-time.

Can I go back on holiday now please?